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7 things my research on weddings taught me about life and humility.

I used to be rather arrogant¬†before I started my research on the Singapore’s wedding industry since 1.5years ago. That is, I thought I knew a lot and there were certain ways of life which I cannot help but judge. This judge-y¬†worldview has since¬†changed a lot ever since I sat down and listened to the stories of brides, because their intimate sharing truly made me realise how much I don’t know I don’t know. On hindsight, I¬†therefore think that this wedding research¬†has made me a more humble and empathetic¬†listener + person. Since I have so much angst right now while reading about crooked wedding vendors, let me take some time to write about the 7 things¬†my research on weddings taught me about life and humility. – #7. Like life, a wedding is technically “once in a lifetime”. This means that there are plenty of stuffs you don’t even know you don’t know. So, actively listen to people with experience, but decide which experience to¬†adopt for yourself. Well, you should actively¬†ask people for advice, and there would …

How to deal with conflicts in the wedding preparation process.

Yesterday I went down to La Belle Couture, and had a really great chat with Peiru. If you are curious about La Belle Couture or Peiru,¬†you can read her¬†interview with Ladyboss here. Part of the¬†conversation¬†really got me thinking not just about conflicts in weddings, but really about conflicts in life. I think we can see “weddings” as a metonymy of “life”. That is to say, thinking about conflicts in¬†life can be reduced to thinking about conflicts in¬†the wedding preparation process. So today, I want to gather some of my thoughts from yesterday’s inspiring conversation and write about the one thing that has been on my mind recently. That is: “Weddings are supposed to be happy events.”   Related to that is the notion that– “The memory of your wedding is supposed to be a happy one.”   Then why do we hear of¬†so many unhappy memories in the wedding preparation process? Nightmares include: Mothers fighting with each other because they wanted the same dress; Parents being unhappy because they felt that their voices weren’t heard; …