All posts tagged: featured

What’s in your heart?

Happy Valentine’s Day, folks!! ♫ Hmm today I woke up thinking about exactly how to find out what is in the hearts of people. Have you watched this video? I laughed so hard. haha. Okay let me give you a more specific analogy. When a boyfriend says “I love you” (if he ever does say it)–what is the best way to communicate this love? To some, it’s LV bags. To some others, it’s diamond rings. To yet some others, like yours truly! It’s salmon. So you see, you cannot anyhow assume the hearts of people. You must ask. But when you ask–you must also think: exactly how should you ask in a smart manner? Some do it via words. Some do it via actions. Some others do it via visuals. Because–sometimes we are also not very smart in the way we ask people what they want. Why not ask “Show me via 10 pictures what is in your heart?” Just take a little moment to think about it. 🙂 A picture speaks a thousand words, and by showing pictures, there …

More than just material: why a wedding gown is not just another dress.

Hello! Today I am going to do a quick post on why brides should always, always, always take their time in choosing a wedding dress. Haven’t you wondered why successful TV series can be made by focusing just on the wedding dress– “Don’t tell the bride“, “Say Yes to the dress“, and many others? I used to not understand–what is their problem? It’s just a damn dress, isn’t it? Why spend so much time on choosing a “perfect dress”, even as divorce rates are rising? And oh–one dress is so expensive too. Is the price worth YOLO? lol. As a fashion marketer who has done intensive studies on the topic of love, romance and marriage in Singapore, naturally I feel very strongly about this topic. Over the course of this and last year, I’d also interviewed a lot of brides and bridal boutique owners, so I’d gotten some very valuable perspectives about the significance of the wedding dress too. If you are interested in this specific topic of wedding dresses, read my post about how …

In praise of randomness

And before I go out– I shall expound briefly why it is important to be random. It is simply because we don’t know what we don’t know. According to Donald Rumsfeld, an American politician and businessman, there are four types of information: (1) The “known-knowns”, defined as things we know that we know; (2) The “known-unknowns”, defined as things that we know that we don’t know; (3) The “unknown-knowns”, defined as things that we don’t know we know; and (4) The “unknown-unknowns”, defined as things that we don’t know we don’t know. If we think about it carefully, the “unknown-unknowns” are the things that could potentially make a huge impact on our lives, and one of the fastest ways you can find out what you don’t know you don’t know is to simply be random. Unveiling “unknown-unknowns” will broaden your mind and introduce you to more things in life. Because you now know the “unknown-unknowns”, you have more possibilities in life, and can make more informed decisions. Sometimes this knowledge will even help you see and …

Slowing Down to Speed Up.

Recently I’d been thinking– What’s the biggest thing I’d learnt in Finland? I think it is to slow down. Don’t get me wrong, I hate a slow life. I don’t think I’d ever like a slow life, even after I have kids. The preference for the speed of life probably has nothing to do with age itself. I like a busy life where there are tons of things to do, many people to interact with, a rich diversity of new ideas and discovery to explore. I don’t think I can ever understand, for instance, why any young person would opt for a slow life, of perhaps mediocrity, instead of putting himself out there to push his boundaries. So, the greatest thing I’d learnt here is to slow down sometimes, in the context of a fast-paced life. Do you know why you should slow down? It is so that you can listen to your natural body rhythm. The concept of “rhythm” is probably something I can feel only in countries with seasons. Singapore has only one …

The art of not saying.

Yesterday I was talking to The Boyfriend about meeting Japanese journalists at Slush, when we were queuing to collect our media passes. Obviously I didn’t know where they are from initially except that they looked like me, but I followed my gut feeling and….bowed. HAHAHAHAHA AND THEY BOWED BACK. ですから日本人。So we started randomly talking and the conversation ended with “Let’s go for drinks!” When I told The Boyfriend this at home, he frowned. “How can anyhow bow!??” This bow and frown thing always give me a familiar warm and fuzzy feeling, so it made me reflect. Even though I’d stayed in Japan for a year, used to make annual/bi-annual trips to Japan, and dated a Japanese guy for 5 years, I couldn’t really verbalize exactly why these two places feel so familiar. I could finally articulate it yesterday. Why both places feel familiar is because the people I love live there. There is also this particular cultural phenomenon I particularly liked, that is the art of not saying. At the first glance the Japanese and …

The 5 positive sneaky things my Finnish friends taught me.

Hey folks! I’m really sleepy right now but since I’d made a commitment to myself to write on a daily basis, today I shall write about the 5 positive sneaky things my Finnish friends taught me in my 1+years here. I love learning about sneaky/politically incorrect stuffs! It is the quirky and politically incorrect things that make life worth living in any country. I’d always been fascinated with the secretly bitchy sides to people, regardless of nationality. Winston Churchill for instance, never fails to impress me with his sophisticated insults. Same applies for Shakespeare. Like the eloquent Englishmen with their dark British humor, I think Finns (my Finnish friends at least) have their positive sneaky ways too. Finns are not sneaky you say? Haha, you probably either don’t have enough Finnish friends, or have gotten used to the following ways of life. Here are the 5 positive sneaky things I learnt from mine: – No.#5: Passive Aggression. I’d never done anything passive aggressive in my entire life until I came to Finland, mainly because the …

How to not give a damn.

Earlier this year, I was really affected by something I cared about. Let’s call this issue “X”. I poured in a lot of effort into X. Emotional, physical, psychological. Then I realized one day that X isn’t going to work out, in spite of the disproportionate amount of effort and energy I’d put in. I was upset. Really upset. I was really happy about the X process though– I felt that as a person I’d grown a lot from it. It’s just that the end result of X is not viewed by certain groups of people as the conventional best. Not even a “good”. Then I asked myself why. I also asked myself, “How can I not give a damn about the negative components of X? I’m really upset. It really hurts.” I think I found the answer today–the only way not to give a damn about the negative aspects of things is when you understand what you really want to do in life. This motivation is innate. Once you understand this inner motivation, your …

How to be Un-judged

Good morning starshines! 🙂 Today’s post is the product of an ongoing discussion that Yeow An and I have been having for the past 6 months on the topic of “How to deal with Judge-y people”. And today, I believe we’d found some working solutions to the uncomfortable problem of being judged by others, when we are just innocently doing our own things. Therefore, I’m going to write down what we have discussed so that YOU can benefit from our discussion too. This is a post which exposes vulnerabilities, as I will be talking about how to be un-judged, or two possible ways to cope with judgmental people. Let me explain: Whenever you try to pursue The Dream, there is bound to be self doubt. These self-doubts can be classified into two categories: (A) What you doubt of your abilities, and (B) what you think others might say of you, in the event that you really went ahead and took the plunge. Let’s assume for instance, that you are a really pretty girl who is …