All posts tagged: divorce singapore

Can you ever predict eventual divorce at the point of marriage?

Can one ever predict divorce when couples exchange their vows? I think for some couples, yes. The premise of this statement is because expectations don’t usually change as they are built up and internalised over the childhood of the couple. Today I want to talk about the lady’s perspective. There are probably 3 subtle ways to tell how a woman views marriage. These are subtle signs you can observe to tell roughly, the definition of “husband material” to a single lady. After you observe the patterns of thought processes, you can then compare these thought patterns with observable things in reality. I view these 3 signs as signposts that determine the direction of the marriage: Observe her father, or ask her about what she thinks of her father. The father-daughter relationship is always going to affect a lady no matter what. Because as a little girl, society tells the little girl via movies and the mass media that she is probably and ideally going to get married one day. The real life reference of a “husband material” is …

The simple reason why some successful politicians/businessmen have affairs.

Yesterday I read this news of Minister of Parliament David Ong committing adultery with a very pretty party member Wendy Lim.  Recently I’d been researching on divorce procedures in Singapore, so the news caught my attention. Well, adultery is one of the three grounds for divorce, and being cheated on is obviously quite painful for the other party in the marriage. Apparently it was Ms. Lim’s husband who reported the affair to the political party. Having said that, I was truly in awe of Lianhe Zaobao’s speed of digging up news! Their investigative journalists are impressive–within a day they dug up who David Ong had the affair with, who was angry about the affair, effectively ignoring any pleas of David Ong for privacy. The scandal spread like wildfire too, especially on hardwarezone forum. And I was also surprised to note how pretty Wendy Lim is, despite being in her 40s. By 6.30pm she had to fully privatise her facebook account. But today I want to blog about the one simple reason as to why I think male politicians/ businessmen commit adultery. For …

The nightmare of “Beauty and the beast”: 3 important things to know after leaving a domestically violent marriage.

Recently I’d been very disturbed, saddened and angered by accounts of ladies who file for divorce on the grounds of domestic violence. My heart goes all out to them–or perhaps I should use the word “us”, since domestic violence is something that can happen to any lady. Nobody marries a husband expecting him to eventually hurt her physically on a regular basis, right?! So today I want to write briefly on the 3 things ladies should take note after divorcing their domestically violent husbands. Somehow the accounts from wives who faced domestic violence do remind me of the Disney movie “Beauty and the Beast”. Have you ever wondered who’s the “Beast”? I’d sometimes also wondered what sort of a curse it took for the once handsome young prince to be transformed into a beast. And I’d always considered if such things do happen in real life. And yes, I think they do. So let’s try to understand a violent husband via the metaphors of “a prince” and “a beast”. Essentially, the husband probably had been a “handsome prince” before the marriage, to the wife. However, when it became apparent …