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恋愛・人生

“The bond between husband and wife is a strong one. Suppose the man had hunted her out and brought her back. The memory of her acts would still be there, and inevitably, sooner or later, it would be cause for rancor. When there are crises, incidents, a woman should try to overlook them, for better or for worse, and make the bond into something durable. The wounds will remain, with the woman and with the man, when there are crises such as I have described. It is very foolish for a woman to let a little dalliance upset her so much that she shows her resentment openly. He has his adventures–but if he has fond memories of their early days together, his and hers, she may be sure that she matters. A commotion means the end of everything. She should be quiet and generous, and when something comes up that quite properly arouses her resentment she should make it known by delicate hints. The man will feel guilty and with tactful guidance he will mend …

[Just for fun] The 2 steps to getting a Singaporean boyfriend! ♡

[A caveat: you decide if this is a satire or not. :P] Hello! Today I am going to blog about the 2 steps to getting a Singaporean boyfriend. ♡ Turns out that there are less steps to getting a Singaporean boyfriend than a Finnish one, huh! My friend Yeow An did a parallel how to get a (pretty Singaporean) girl just like my parallel Finnish girlfriend post, so be sure to check it out. There are pretty hot Singaporean guys with a “typical Singaporean guy” mentality! Check here, here and here. Also there are ten types of Singaporean boyfriend–for your easy reference. Oh I want to address one point here. One reader actually asked me, “Aren’t these guide-to-getting-a-partner posts about stereotypes?” My answer is–“Of course they are!” But I’m inclined to argue that there are truths to most stereotypes, especially when these stereotypes are about ideals in any culture and society. Why? Especially for Singapore, for example, it is the mass media which controls such gendered ideals, making them predictable. Singapore has a relatively strong state-controlled …

The difference between “passive aggressive” and “passive”.

Hey folks! Today’s post is going to be on the difference between “passive aggressive” and “passive”. The advice of Wil Wheaton (his initials are WW too!) is really good! Two weeks ago, he wrote on the benefits of making it a point to sit down and write something everyday–no matter how tired you are! Making yourself sit and write something daily forces you to reflect on your life, and I do think I’m reflecting quite a bit these days! This post is divided into four parts: (A) My definition of “passive aggression”; (B) The difference between “passive aggressive” and “passive”; (C) Why being passive aggressive is strategic; and (D) Deciding what sort of human being you want to be. Okay let’s start! – (A) My definition of “passive aggression”. I define “passive aggressive” as “insisting on not doing anything you don’t want to do“. In my previous post, I mentioned that prior to Finland, I’d never done anything passive aggressive before. The way I deal with tricky life matters has always been active–I’d always insist …

The 5 positive sneaky things my Finnish friends taught me.

Hey folks! I’m really sleepy right now but since I’d made a commitment to myself to write on a daily basis, today I shall write about the 5 positive sneaky things my Finnish friends taught me in my 1+years here. I love learning about sneaky/politically incorrect stuffs! It is the quirky and politically incorrect things that make life worth living in any country. I’d always been fascinated with the secretly bitchy sides to people, regardless of nationality. Winston Churchill for instance, never fails to impress me with his sophisticated insults. Same applies for Shakespeare. Like the eloquent Englishmen with their dark British humor, I think Finns (my Finnish friends at least) have their positive sneaky ways too. Finns are not sneaky you say? Haha, you probably either don’t have enough Finnish friends, or have gotten used to the following ways of life. Here are the 5 positive sneaky things I learnt from mine: – No.#5: Passive Aggression. I’d never done anything passive aggressive in my entire life until I came to Finland, mainly because the …