Month: April 2016

The art of eradicating delays.

Recently I had an interesting discussion with a friend on “how to eradicate delays”. Personally, I’m terrible at asking people to be faster in doing their work, or accelerating things for me. But this friend is an expert, and I’m going to write down what he taught me. Context: I’d been stuck with a particular issue for close to 1.5years already. -.- It’s a very irritating matter, because the only reason why I have to stay in Singapore throughout May is because I have to settle this case before I fly anywhere else in the world. -.-;;;; In fact, it would be a blessing IF this matter can be settled before May ends, so I sought this wise friend’s advice to accelerate the matter. Here’s what he said: Always follow hierarchy.  Smart friend says: Once shit touches social media, everything = gone case. This is because there is no room for damage-control when things get out of hand. So even if there is a mistake made, never take to social media, because instead of rectifying the mistake, the …

If you have a “good” wedding, would it lower your chance of divorce?

I’m just thinking– If you planned and experienced a very memorable wedding, would it lower the chance of divorce? “Memorable” does not mean “expensive”. “Memorable” however, means doing things on your terms and in accordance to what matters to you. You see, recently I’d been thinking about the meaning of a wedding ring. On the one hand, a wedding ring is just metal. (Rose gold, white gold, gold, silver, palladium) On the other hand, a wedding ring serves as a constant reminder and a promise. So there are two extremes you see, in terms of the visible and the invisible. If one forgets about the invisible, then it’s easy to regard the ring as “just metal”. Likewise, if one forgets the significance of the wedding, then it’s easy to get divorce. Unsure if this is indeed logical though. If it is, then it might be a good idea to videograph and photograph your wedding. Recently I get slightly freaked out with people who say that they would like to have a wedding just to please their parents, …

What’s your wedding for?

“A wedding is so troublesome.” –I don’t know why I always felt that way about weddings, as a first feeling. Sorry this post is going to be so haphazard and random because I’m so physically tired, but let me just jot these thoughts down before I forget. –But shouldn’t a wedding be something beautiful? “I”M MARRYING A GUY I REALLY LIKE OMG OMGOMG GOMG OMG OMG.” So how can someone not be excited over weddings? Or has “he” been so taken for granted that all the OMGs die? What’s your gown for?  “I’m wearing this gown to look pretty for my groom” Vs “Anything that doesn’t make me look fat to the rest.” Do such thoughts not mark the vast differences in premise? So yes, what is the wedding for? who is the wedding for? why hold a wedding? What’s the first answer that comes to your heart? — If you were to start with a premise of “the wedding is just for show”, then spending even 2000euros on it would be a waste. But if …

Can you ever predict eventual divorce at the point of marriage?

Can one ever predict divorce when couples exchange their vows? I think for some couples, yes. The premise of this statement is because expectations don’t usually change as they are built up and internalised over the childhood of the couple. Today I want to talk about the lady’s perspective. There are probably 3 subtle ways to tell how a woman views marriage. These are subtle signs you can observe to tell roughly, the definition of “husband material” to a single lady. After you observe the patterns of thought processes, you can then compare these thought patterns with observable things in reality. I view these 3 signs as signposts that determine the direction of the marriage: Observe her father, or ask her about what she thinks of her father. The father-daughter relationship is always going to affect a lady no matter what. Because as a little girl, society tells the little girl via movies and the mass media that she is probably and ideally going to get married one day. The real life reference of a “husband material” is …

Fashion marketing + Why I love the bridal industry.

Today I want to write about two things close to heart: Fashion marketing and bridal. Most fashion marketers have love-hate relationships with the fashion industry. Sometimes we also see so called “fashion-influencers” or “celebrity-wannabes” spamming/ wearing fast-fashion and simultaneously preaching ethics. Those ignorant know-it-alls make me want to laugh until I drop dead and die. Beneath the feet of beautiful girls are dispersed corpses, unpaid interns by the queues, an entirely business-like industry which operates by demand and supply and pays by market rate. Yeah, go ahead and hate fashion and vanity then. Practise what you preach–“Yes, wasn’t it fairness?” and please do it to the max. *smiles* The fashion/arts/ creative industry isn’t for the meek, nor the faint-hearted. When I was doing my unpaid internship in ANA-Crowne Hotel Hiroshima at the age of 19, I couldn’t take my eyes off the gowns in the bridal department. They call it ブライダル. I love the wedding coordinator, she had such a beautiful smile, and a warm and sincere demeanour. You could sense her positivity from a mile away. Till today I remember …

Tip for all entrepreneurs: Always sign a contract before starting any paid project.

Hmm quick post before I end my day. Recently I had been working with quite some of my lawyer friends (due to common grassroot projects), and I felt that my knowledge of law increased by quite a bit. So today I want to write briefly about the one very important thing I’d learnt from lawyers and other more experienced entrepreneurs. Hope this post benefits entrepreneurs who are just starting out/ freelancers/ one-off-art-project doers. It is this: Whenever a paid project is involved, always sign a contract. That is to say, whenever money is involved, always have things in black and white. Sometimes, us entrepreneurs are too trusting, so we decide to trust just verbal promises instead of black and white documentations. – Do this no matter how much you think you trust the person who is paying you. Do this no matter how shiny/ trustworthy/ likeable the client seems to be. – Because, when shit hits the fan, shit hits the fan. I’m speaking from personal experience. This contract must include: Exactly what is the project on, and what is …

Rhapsody in blue + A floral studio.

I’d been looking at flowers, and more flowers, and even more flowers. Then I had wanted to buy them all for photoshoots. For the studio. -SIGH- WHY ARE FLOWERS SO PRETTY and important for photoshoots. I lust for flowers for photoshoots. You know, any vaguely “arts” person who runs a company will tell you that they channel close to all their profits to buying better equipment, making their studio better, hiring more staffs so that they can have more brainpower to do bigger things. It’s all in the name of “pretty”. I’m a relative web-design geek, so I always think of ways to buy more domains, free up time to do more CSS designs and codings, and do better photoshoots. Then photoshop those pretty photos using lightroom and PS (actually this is embarrassing but I don’t know how to use illustrator yet.) And then I became ultra-sensitive to flowers. Heehee. This wedding industry is fun. 🙂