Recently I’d become increasingly convinced that before a couple intends to get married, it might be helpful for them to actively listen to the stories of–
- Friends who choose to be single; and
- Friends who choose to be divorced.
Listen, listen, listen, and don’t judge first. There are really plenty of things to learn from these accounts, if only if we were to listen with an open heart and mind.
I think most societies tend to idealise the institution of marriage too. Snapshots of pretty/ luxurious wedding ceremonies all over social media do contribute to this collective imagination. They capture the hearts of the public and make them not want to look away, or consider less shiny alternatives, espousing dreams of:
- Bride= “A girl’s lifetime dream and goal”; and
- Wedding= “The most significant rite of passage marking a girl’s transition to a woman.”
It really makes me wonder.