Month: October 2015

How to not give a damn.

Earlier this year, I was really affected by something I cared about. Let’s call this issue “X”. I poured in a lot of effort into X. Emotional, physical, psychological. Then I realized one day that X isn’t going to work out, in spite of the disproportionate amount of effort and energy I’d put in. I was upset. Really upset. I was really happy about the X process though– I felt that as a person I’d grown a lot from it. It’s just that the end result of X is not viewed by certain groups of people as the conventional best. Not even a “good”. Then I asked myself why. I also asked myself, “How can I not give a damn about the negative components of X? I’m really upset. It really hurts.” I think I found the answer today–the only way not to give a damn about the negative aspects of things is when you understand what you really want to do in life. This motivation is innate. Once you understand this inner motivation, your …

4 Practical Steps to Dealing with Online Haters.

Good morning Starshines! Today’s post is on 4 practical steps to dealing with online haters. I’m writing this with the intention to encourage EmmTann, ever since the EmmTann Vs Donovan “saga” broke three days back. Two months ago, I met up with a dedicated educator when I was back in Singapore, and he told me that the Ministry of Education (MOE) in Singapore is planning “Cyber Wellness” into its cirriculum. That’s really interesting and caring, and I strongly applaud the ministry for planning this aspect into the education curriculum! After all, youngsters nowadays are increasingly on Instagram and Snapchat–with tons of nudity too, haha. Sometimes in their sheltered world, they don’t know any better. According to MOE official website, “Cyber Wellness” is defined as: “… the positive well-being of Internet users. It involves an understanding of online behaviour and awareness of how to protect oneself in cyber space.” So today, to contribute in my own little way to this discourse, I will do a post on “How to deal with online haters”. This post offers …

Is Finland’s Labour Productivity High or Low?

Good Morning Starshines! 🙂 Today I am going to write a piece about Finland’s labour productivity, because I’m confused by certain popular sentiments that boldly assert that Finland’s labour productivity is high. This is in spite of clear 2015, current evidence by the World Economic Forum that strongly suggests that Finland’s labour productivity is not only low; the nation’s labour productivity growth rate is also dismal over the years vis-a-vis its nordic neighbours, and vis-a-vis the stronger economies in EU15. I wonder how and where people in Finland get the impression that the labour productivity is high in the region? Clarification of Intention: I researched this topic last night because as the owner of a social media company based in Singapore, we have four permanent staffs. I am always committed to increase the productivity of myself and my team, and we do make quite some investment on IT within the company, for instance. My work ethics is straightforward: I first encourage my team to be clear about what we want to do, then measure our work progress …

How to be Un-judged

Good morning starshines! 🙂 Today’s post is the product of an ongoing discussion that Yeow An and I have been having for the past 6 months on the topic of “How to deal with Judge-y people”. And today, I believe we’d found some working solutions to the uncomfortable problem of being judged by others, when we are just innocently doing our own things. Therefore, I’m going to write down what we have discussed so that YOU can benefit from our discussion too. This is a post which exposes vulnerabilities, as I will be talking about how to be un-judged, or two possible ways to cope with judgmental people. Let me explain: Whenever you try to pursue The Dream, there is bound to be self doubt. These self-doubts can be classified into two categories: (A) What you doubt of your abilities, and (B) what you think others might say of you, in the event that you really went ahead and took the plunge. Let’s assume for instance, that you are a really pretty girl who is …

On Stereotypes–“Hi! I’m a Creature!”

Today, I chatted briefly with my friend Daniel, and we were discussing about this viral article on the Singapore’s Art Scene and on the topic of using a controversial title as a click bait. It’s truly unfortunate how journalists these days like to sensationalize things–but then again, who can blame them? People are generally bored, and if it helps move papers, then sensationalism can’t be avoided, can it! Anyway, the article was about how this Singaporean artist Ong Keng Sen felt “embarrassed” when he talks about Singapore to his overseas colleagues. Honestly, Ong isn’t the only artist I’d met overseas who have felt less than proud about Singapore. Quite a lot of others have felt embarrassed too–due mainly to our (lack thereof) human rights laws and one-party rule. But even then, that is not the point. The point was that Ong was talking about the problem of the Singaporean “meritocratic” system, a system which focuses strongly on quantitative measures and being pragmatic, so much so that we compromise on a potential vibrant arts scene. And …

The Chinese Guide to Reading Human Beings.

Hi guys! Today I am going to write about the practical guide to reading and predicting human behavior, backed by the ancient  I-Ching (易經), or alternatively known as “The Book of Change”. Context: Last month I attended Singaporean business leader Raymond Ng’s course on Chinese Philosophy and Business, and found this part of the course really useful. Who doesn’t want to be able to predict human behavior? I’d always been very curious about human behavior, to the point of being nose-y. For example, I’d not declare knowing certain languages sometimes, just to be able to eavesdrop on interesting conversations in that particular language. And I love going to smokers’ corners just to listen to gossips. Sometimes I’m also quite sneaky when I dig information, and that’s why I am quite a good social media manager–well, we research extensively online on personal profiles! So when Raymond told me that I-Ching can help me to read human beings better, I was sold. And as expected, this knowledge did help me greatly, so I hope you enjoy this …

“Why so much angst?”

Hey guys! Okay my drop-dead-gorgeous friend Yeow An suggested that I write this post, so I am writing it now before I go back to read some International Economics stuffs written by Paul Krugman. Recently, because of that viral post, Yeow An thought that I sounded “angst-y”. “Why so much angst?” She asked. The reason behind all the angst of course, is because I’m leaving Finland in 4 months time, and the fact is that I don’t know when I can return. Imagine this: You’re going to leave a NICE HOUSE, a NICE FOREST outside your house, with random cute animals like squirrels and deers and rabbits. You’re going to leave a place where there are a lot of pretty boys and eye-candies to look at. You’re going to leave a place where people are kind-hearted, innovative and do loads of pretty visuals. And why are you leaving? Because you know in your heart that the Finnish economy isn’t doing well, not going to do well for the next 1-5 years, and there is no …

“How many years do you have to live?”

Hey guys! Today I want to talk about…LIFE. Haha. It’s really absurd sometimes to observe how people tend to think they can live forever. In humid Singapore, there are no four seasons, so it is easy to be numbed to the flow of time. There are tall buildings, and everyone is busy working, rushing something, sensitive to every movement of the market economy. There is this saying among the hard workers at Raffles Place on Fridays, of colleagues telling each other– “Let’s leave office while the sky is still blue today.” Today I went for a walk outside in the forest again outside my house, and saw so many pretty autumn leaves. Some red, some brown, some yellow, and some wilted. And I thought of this Japanese verse: 「春の風包まれて 遥かな夢描いて 夏の雲途切れては 消えていった 秋の空切なくて 冬の海冷たくて 夢中になっていく程 時は経っていたね」 Which translates as: “Spring’s Wind visits, drawing a far-off dream; The break in the summer clouds disappears; The autumn sky is painful, the winter’s sea is cold; The more I am in tuned with the seasons, the faster time …

What is “Business” to a Chinese person?

Hey guys! Today I’m going to write about what the term “business” might mean to a Chinese person. Yes, this is an ontology post! When I was in Singapore last month on a business trip, the business leader Raymond Ng gave me a scholarship to attend his popular course on Chinese Philosophy and Business, inspired by the book of I-Ching (易经), or alternatively known as “The Book of Change”. I thought this might interest my audience. I’d always been interested in all things East-Asian, or related to China, Korea and Japan. I’m rather proficient in all three languages, even though I’m weakest in Korean. I took Chinese literature for 6 years, and read the main classics, poems and popular literature. My ex-boyfriend was Japanese (I only had 2 boyfriends my entire life, lol!) and I spent a year in Japan at Waseda University. In 2013, my friend Fiona and I were sponsored by Korean Air to blog about Seoul. So you see, East Asian philosophy and culture has always been close to my heart, and I …